If you think that fate is unfair in the fact that your friends in life have a good life and only get better over time, and if you are in a hole with which you don’t know how to get out, it’s wonderful that this article is in front of you. read it to the end.
Our mistake lies in the fact that we, perhaps, take information on a note, but do not use it as an instruction to our life. If you try to do this, you will be surprised how your life will change. What should you try ?!
All that is required of you is to get rid of the deep-rooted and old beliefs that do not lead to anything else but collapse. It is they who break your life.
10 beliefs that can break your life
10. I am a victim of circumstances
Very often people blame circumstances, other people for their failures and complain about their unfortunate fate. However, while a person with the victim’s position is wasting his time, wasting it wrong, another at this moment achieves heights and moves on the path to achieving the desired.
No one around is to blame that you are not happy with your life. Only you are responsible for everything that happens to you, as well as for what you feel. When you stop feeling like a victim, and realize that you can achieve everything you want, your life will begin to change.
9. I can change others
We are all human, and each of us is imperfect. If some traits in another person seem bad to you, you do not accept them - this does not mean that the person is generally bad in itself, but someone else, on the contrary, may consider these traits in him to be positive. If you do not like something in others, you have no right to try to change them.
No matter how you try to change the other, he will not change until he wants to. You will only lose your time and energy in vain. If you do not like someone, and you are not ready to accept him for who he is, do not communicate with this person.
8. I cannot accept what is happening
Most of the things that surround you, and you do not like, you can easily change.
For example, it is strange when a person goes to work every day that he does not like at all, or lives with a person whom he does not like. Such things can be changed, just not everyone is resolute, and there are still very affectionate people who live by the principle: "I feel bad for this, but I will not change anything."
But sometimes we cannot influence something, it must be accepted as a fact. When we cannot change the situation, we have only one thing left - to adjust our perception. Humility is always painful, but we can either torment ourselves or begin to perceive our world differently.
7. The neighbor is always getting better
It always seems to us that “somewhere” and “someone” is better. “If I were so rich,” “If I had the strength of a super hero,” “If I was born in America” ... it’s possible to go on ad infinitum.
However, the thought that "If ..." is completely unconstructive. In addition, we see only a piece of someone's life. Every person in life has both bad and good things going on.
If you stop monitoring the achievements of others, and take up yourself, your development and improve your life, then someone will look at you one day and say: “If I were like him ...” “Better” does not exist.
6. People must do what is expected of them
The mistake of many people is that they believe that the people around them must live up to their expectations. Unjustified expectations lead us to disappointment, tears, sadness ...
If you think that your loved one should spend all his time with you, and he prefers to see friends, is he to blame for this?
If you stop waiting for something from others, then you will not only create an atmosphere of wisdom around you, but it will become much easier for you to live. If you don’t like someone’s behavior, don’t expect this person to change him for you, just exclude him from your environment.
5. Life only makes sense when there is a soul mate
Many people believe that when they meet love, they will get rid of all problems and make sense. Nothing like this. When two not very wise people meet, their coexistence can only make their lives worse.
If you feel bad now, you are not happy with life, believe me - everything will remain the same, whoever you meet on your way.
Another person can bring bright moments into your life, but he cannot make you happy. If you take up your life and begin to receive happiness from simple things, then most likely, meeting a person with the same energy - light and love, you will only increase your happiness.
4. I must prove to others that I am right
Do you believe in the power of the Almighty, and your friend is trying to prove to you that no Almighty exists and we can only rely on ourselves? And on this basis does conflict arise? ABOUT
very often wrong are those who want to impose their righteousness and faith on others. People with the gift of suggestion and conviction may be able to lure people to their side, but why?
In my opinion, it’s very good when all people are different and their worldview is different. So we can draw knowledge, thoughts from different sources and develop. Let everyone remain unconvinced, what's the point of proving something?
3. For me it is important that they think about me
If you spin around the mirror for hours or think that someone will condemn your act when you do not free up space in the transport for a pregnant woman, then you are mistaken in this. People quickly forget everything, everyone thinks more about themselves than about anyone else. Even if others condemned you ... what does it matter? After all, life is yours.
We cannot be liked by everyone, so the most important rule is to do what you want in your life. There will always be those who understand and support us, and we can always meet condemnation, rudeness and misunderstanding from others. This is normal, and always with everyone.
2. Money will make anyone happy
The issue of money always remains open. Some people think that money gives freedom and brings happiness, while others believe that it’s just pieces of paper and you can’t buy the most important things for them.
Initially, people have the wrong attitude to money - they can come easily when you do what you love and with difficulty when you hate your work.
The level of happiness, of course, does not depend on money. Everyone has different requests - someone will be happy with a delicious cake made by their grandmother, and someone will not be happy with a new home ... It's not about the amount of money, but about how much you need for the life you want to lead.
If you want something and you have money for it, you will feel happy, and if you want nothing and feel happy without money, their absence does not affect your condition.
1. The past determines the present and future
Not everyone can boast of their past - most of us have had moments in our lives that we would not remember ...
For example, someone was disgraced in front of a girl at the university whom he was in love with, someone had not graduated from this very institute, and someone could not find his calling in any way.
Feeling like a failure, remembering our past mistakes and mistakes, we do not let anything new come into our lives.
This does not mean that you, ceasing to feel like a failure, will become someone else. But ceasing to feel them, you have more chances to achieve something, despite the social, material and professional situation. After all, faith in your own strength can turn mountains - remember this.