We will be honest with ourselves - sometimes we are so sure of our rightness that we will not stop at nothing, proving our interlocutor our truth.
Indeed, sometimes it’s better visible from the outside how to act in a given situation, but there are people who do not want to accept someone else’s opinion in any way. What to do with them? Answer: try to win over!
There are psychological tricks - getting into them, the interlocutor will agree with you, even if he does not want to.
10. The result depends on how your interlocutor is located.
Imagine this situation - you are talking to a person whose opinion is negative at some points. And this man is trying to persuade you to his truth. Will he be able to do this if he does not inspire confidence in you? Unlikely. And a person who has a negative opinion about you will also not be able to.
In this case, there is only one option - to change the opinion of yourself for the better, and preferably not with words, but with actions.
After that, use the tuning technique - imitate his gestures and postures in a conversation with the interlocutor. So you create a trusting atmosphere.
9. Remember the most repeated words.
Each person has words - clichés to which he returns from time to time. It can be the words “cool”, “let's say”, “wow”, etc.
Your task is to remember them and also begin to use. But do not do it right away, but after some time, otherwise the interlocutor will think that you are laughing at him or mimicking him.
Every time a person repeats his favorite words - smile, showing approval or enthusiasm.
You will notice how your interlocutor will repeat the words more often. And you will have a chance to persuade him to his side.
8. Incline so that it is not obvious
Most of all I want to listen to those people who look confident, but do not prove their case with foam at the mouth.
You can notice this for yourself. Who do you want to trust - a delicate and self-confident person or one who brings arguments in his favor aggressively and even painfully? Most likely the first.
Therefore, learn the rule - to win the location of the interlocutor can only not showing him how you need it.
The ideal combination of qualities for the disposition of others is patience and delicacy.
7. To agree with your point of view - accept someone else's
You ask: “How will I take someone else's point of view when I need to listen to me?” The answer is very simple - people willingly agree with those who agree with them.
Demonstrating to others that you do not consider your opinion to be ideal, and that you believe that someone else's can be better than yours, you will gain followers for the future as a person with broad views.
Pronouncing words such as “I think it makes sense,” “I see that you are well versed in this,” etc., you will appear before the person you are talking to as someone who respects someone else’s opinion, and they will answer you in the same way.
6. To win over - control the conversation
There is one trick, and even manipulation - in order for a person to accept your point of view, you must show him that he is more competent in the matter than he is. Only it should be in fact.
When a person hears worthwhile arguments from you, a difficult terminology for himself, he will automatically consider himself dumber than you in any field, and he will have no choice but to agree.
By the way, this approach can be found in academia. But only a person who understands better than the other in any field is not at all smarter than the other.
5. In conversation, seem like a nice and kind person.
Who knows what you really think? Maybe you are planning a great revenge, only the interlocutor does not need to know about this.
The easiest way to get approval is to nod your head while talking and smile. You will notice how a person will not even decide whether to agree with you or not. He will nod his head at you, and you will seize the moment and instill in him the opinion you need about something or someone.
Often we don’t even notice how social. And when they agree with us, we are ready to agree too.
4. Do not leave your interlocutor a choice
You can do one experiment right now, this is amazing, but the trick works!
For example, on Saturday evening, you agreed with your husband to spend the evening together. Do not ask him: “Dear, where will we go on Saturday - to the cinema or to the restaurant?” Ask a different question: “Honey, what kind of movie will we watch in the cinema?” And after that, name the two films that you have already selected. You will not hear objections, the person will choose from what you offered him. He will think that he made an independent choice, but you already decided everything for him.
This is a fairly simple trick, try to apply it at least once in a conversation, and you will begin to do this constantly.
3. If you want to get something from another - speak it
Imagine this situation - a day off, a girl goes to the store for purchases, picks up a lot of groceries, household cleaning products, etc. On the way home she meets a friend with whom to go along the way.
She gives him the packages, and he carries them without even saying: “We didn’t agree so!” Why? The thing is that the girl was actively talking to him at that time, so when transferring the bags, he automatically picked them up, although he could be confused.
The same thing can be done in any situation - talk to the person you are talking to, and do it your own way.
2. Do you want to arrange an interlocutor - call him by name
In many psychological books you can read the following: “Call a person by name to attract him to himself,” but this approach is not always true. Why?
Some people associate their name with negative events in the past. If a person is ashamed of something, and he tries to erase himself from the past from memory, then calling him by name is not recommended. It’s better to use a different, fake name that a person now calls himself.
But if a person has not had any traumatic events in the past, then by calling him periodically by name, you make your interlocutor feel more significant.
1. Flattery - one of the most working ways to manipulate
We are social beings, and are so arranged that we need to hear words of support, praise and compliments. You, having appreciated your interlocutor, automatically incline him to your side.
Say nice words to people, let them hear what they want to hear, share, and most importantly understand their interests and be involved.
For example, if you want to win over a person whose hobby is painting the Venetian masks, tell him: “You have amazing masks! I hadn’t seen anything like it before. ”
If you start asking a person about his hobby, he will be happy to tell you about him, and more than likely - he will agree with your opinion about something.